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Fear of Success, Part One: How to Conquer Your Fear of Getting in Shape

Do you know how to conquer your fear of losing weight and building a healthier body? Would you like to be in a routine of exercise and eating well and seeing progress? Would you like to have people commenting to you on how fit you look?

Wouldn't that be nice?

But do you find yourself too scared to start something like that? Are you wondering what people will think of you if you become "that" person, the one who is fit and healthy? Do you think you'll start someday in the future? Which  you say is tomorrow, but is really like next year sometime, when you finally get your act together.

How would you like to start now? Today? Right this very second?

The trick is starting. That's the biggie. For many people, once they start soon they find themselves in a routine that is easy to follow. They look forward to their workouts. They enjoy eating good foods and taking care of their bodies. It's not about suffering and sacrifice.

What about as time goes on? After a month or two you'll start to see some changes in your health, but are you afraid of really succeeding? How about a year or two or more down the road? What will you look like then?

A lot of us are afraid to succeed. Afraid to be our best. Afraid of all the amazing things we can accomplish with our life. Afraid of the almost limitless possibility.

The "Grow-and-Rest" Method: How to Conquer Your Fear of Getting in Shape

How you conquer your fear of getting in shape involves the use of what I call the "grow-and-rest" method. It's really quite simple.

Step 1. Start.

Step 2. Grow.

Step 3. Rest.

Step 4. Repeat, when you're ready.

Yes, starting is one of the hardest blocks to overcome. Another hard block belongs on the "being-the-best-you-can-be" spectrum. This occurs when you start to see too much success and it scares you. Are you scared to be the fastest runner? The most muscular person? Where do you stop? How good do you want to be?

This is also what stops  a lot of people from starting in the first place. It's like if you go to the gym once, you'll automatically be in the best shape of your life.

So my advice is to simply start. You won't see any major changes right away. The world won't be beating a path to your door, asking you to be on the cover of their magazine. Start and grow, the second step.

Grow until you start to see some changes, changes that begin to scare you. "Oh no, I'm starting to lose weight/get muscular/ run faster! What are people going to say???"

Then once you've reached that stage, simply stop and take a break. This is the rest stage. Take a break from your progress and go into a maintenance phase. Keep working out, eating better, enough to maintain the growth you've achieved, but not enough to see more growth.

Take some time here to realize that the world isn't going to explode. In the grand scheme of things, you getting in shape, isn't that big of a deal. It is a big deal, because what you're doing for yourself is amazing, but at the same time it isn't a big deal. There is a lot more going on in the world than just you getting in shape.

This rest phase could last a few days, a few weeks, a few months or even a year or more. Whatever it takes  for you to be okay with what you've done, to make it a part of the new you. For it to not be that big of a deal anymore.

During this time, stay in your maintenance phase and keep the progress that you've made.

Then, when you're ready, get back into a growth phase. Start to work out enough or eat better enough to start seeing some changes again. Once you hit another plateau again (if you do - maybe you won't), then simply stop and take another break again. Then when you're mentally ready to begin again, do so.

Keep doing this "grow-and-rest" cycle as many times as you need. How do you conquer your fear of getting in shape? This is one way with which I have experience. I've found it to be quite effective. The trick is to start. Once you've begun and you are in a routine, it will feel really good about yourself.

For another somewhat related way to get you started and give you motivation to get off the couch, click here.

How Do You Conquer Your Fear of Many Other Goals, Not Just Getting in Shape? Try the Grow-and-Rest Method

This grow-and-rest method could probably be applied to other areas of your life. Simply start taking some steps towards achieving a goal. Then take a break until you're ready to move on again.


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